Do you ever plan on leaving the site?

I have always wanted to ask this in a Poll but I just been hesitant. And I ask cuz I worry about my friends on here leaving the site. I know I have no plans on leaving!

I have thought of not staying on cause have trust issues

I know how you feel I have some trust issues too! I am here if you ever wanted or needed someone to talk too!

Princess, I had to cancel my account. I have another friend on here that I thought i was really close to and then three weeks ago when my horse got colic and died, I was bedridden for three days and couldn't function. I didn't answer my phone or even get on the comuter, then after the third day, I got up and started to live again, my grief was inconsolable. Anyway, I had three days worth of messages from this friend that ranged from the first day asking where i was to by the end of the third day saying things like f==k you, you always probably use people, abandon all your friends, were obviously never a friend, think your problems are the only ones that matter, etc. All with very cruel and mean nasty language. All because I had not been on my messages for three days. Anyway, I was so hurt/upset and sick over it I just cancelled here and did send you a mesage on the other site FB so you would know what happened. Anyway, this person apologized and I have been talking to her again so I came back on here because I have several people that I do talk to and support and I just couldn't walk away from them. I did have to take a break as the messages I had gotten were very hurtful and I didn't want it to continue. So I just wanted you to know I was looking for you and had sent you a message to other site. If you look at my friends on FB, most of them I've had for over 30 yrs and have never hurt or abandoned a friend, but when I get verbally abused using very filthy names, I cannot take that and true friends do NOT do that to each other. I do not think this person will do this to me again, and I am willing to move forward and forgive and let the past be the past as I truly care for her, so I jsut wanted to let you know what had happened. I sure hope you are ok and well...As far as your IBS, I think that can also be caused by stress. Have you tried really overhauling your diet and trying a largely raw veggie/fruit diet? limited meats and dairy? I wonder if that would help, eating bland and really healthy, cutting out all caffeeine and sugar? Well, dear, I hope you are well and to hear from you soon. Love, julz

Julz, it is nice to see you around again!! YAY!

Princess, of course I'm not going anywhere!!!! Love ya!

Big hugs, Suzee

Well I hope at some pointbi won't need the same support and for those that need me we could exchange info

dear princess, i can see my roles shifting but i can't see loosing my true friends that i have made here on support groups. i hope i never do. it is my intention to stay available in whatever capacity i can. i will continue to choke out my prayers on a daily basis for all the beloved suffering people. love, a prayer warrior

dear julz, i am so sorry that you had that experience. why i have left the site several times for several differnt reasons intense personal family reasons and could not get online to check in and answer posts or mail and i think that that response was horrendous, but forgiveness is key and i am so glad that you were able to work on that and do that forgiveness and move forward...me i might have just balled up and not been able to move at all. good on you julz for moving forward and forgiving. what a beautiful person you are. and i am truely sorry for you loss. you are in my thoughts and prayers. maria

julz , that is truly devastating . just what u needed a hurt after a hurt !!! above all , we have to protect ourselves . i think by withdrawing from this person u are doing yourself a favor . .. princess , u now know if i ever got devastated enuf to leave we have a perfect way of keeping in touch . i so appreciate your sensitivity .. as always maria , the prayers u extend to all are priceless . what ever would we do without u ?

Usually my reason for wanting to unsubscribe is when I get overwhelmed by others' stresses and difficulties (seeing patterns similar to mine is good because I know I'm not alone, but at the same time discouraging if you see certain patterns recur in people who have been a member of the site longer than me) and I feel guilty for not being able to answer them all, or I feel guilty for not feeling qualified enough to give wise words. Or I post something and take it personally when 1 or 2 people answer and see others get more replies. I know this is probably just my internal ups and downs, and I have to be able to shake stuff off, but just wanted to share why I answered "yes" to this poll...

princess

as u know pumpkin its always hard to balance the needs of outside the site with the needs of being here but i will always be around

sometimes its just to read old posts and catch up on what u all have been doing at others its to dwell on my loss and occasionally its to reply to u

but u know i am proud of your growth so keep going

take care and be kind to u

love D

I am not leaving. I just got here and I think that everyone should adjust their expectations about this site. I think that it is absolutely wonderful but just like everything else we cannot trust anyone 100%. I need you all so I hope you will stay...:-)

I want to be able to leave, I don't think that this is a part of me and I will live with it forever, I think it is something that I can fix and move on from.

Just once. Everyone always gets like 10+ comments and my post got 0. but i stayed

I think everyone will eventually outgrow this site as they work their own recovery programs. At some point, a group like this is no long necessary, but some folks chose to stay on anyway to act as guides or mentors for the newcomers. For them then, this group becomes a mission or ministry, a way of reaching out and serving the fellow human beings.

I hope that when I get my own issues resolved (which will probably take therapy) I will be a big enough person to stay on here, and help others with their own issues, and share the wisdom I will gain through resolving my issues. But, I said I don't know, because we simply NEVER know what the future holds.

I plan on staying around as long as this site will let me

I will always be around I think. I am sometimes not on for a few weeks due to work, grandkids, uncle....life, but I relish my time here when I am. Have made good friends and like catching up and reading success stories. Life is stress and comes with problems and this is such a wonderful outlet for advice and points of view!

i wish to but i dont know if i can

im not because it seems to help me in little ways and getting some much needed advice from other people besides family and friends. its good to get the extra advice

I want to stay here forever because I can't talk to anyone else about all the rage in my mind...in my marriage...my jealousy of a woman my husband works with...my Rage at my mother who gave me up at birth...and so on.

All my sucky not nice thoughts go here!

I am very Paranoid and Thankful...I have this Sanctuary!

Princess, I always told you that you would be the first to know if I was ever planing on leaving the site... well, I'm not sure I can stay here. ED and depression are kicking my butt right now and I am not sure what to do. I want to run away from my life. Leave ME behind, only problem is, wherever I go I will always be there. I don't know what to do just now. I need help but I'm not sure where or who to turn to right now. I feel so alone.

Unknown, I am sorry your having such a hard time! I am crying and very sad that you don't think you can stay, please know I am always here for you and you can always email as well. I love and care about you so much unconditionally and I support you unconditionally! I don't want you to leave, I want you to stay, and I encourage you to stay and get the help you need! I know how you feel though I have had times when self harm and depression! As I said I am always here for you unconditionally! I love you so much and here are lots of online hugs!

you'll be better off without a friend like me princess.... trust me. i am a complete f*ck up in all i do.

I'm new here and my posts haven't really been responded to. No one has offered support and I don't feel really connected/supported. So, right now I could take it or leave it. I am just reading others stories and they really reflect mine. I feel like an outsider looking in. However, I am so glad many have found friends and support here - that is awesome!

OH Lace, that is NOT true!! You are a treasured beautiful member here and we love you!! I understand feeling down and hopeless and I think everyone here can relate at different times in their lives. We are here for you and we will always be here for whenever you need us!!! You are NOT allowed to go anywhere... sorry, but that's the rules!!! :0)

Love you, Suzee

Hope4me, I am so sorry you are feeling like no one is seeing you!! Honestly, I think right now is a hard time for so many people as far as being crazy busy, depressed, stressed, upset, lonely, angry, sad etc.... Truly when we think of Christmas or when it's advertised on TV, it's all sparkly beauty and pure, amazing love, but the truth sadly is, that there are lots of people who are so overwhelmed at the holidays or sad from past trauma from within their families and friends etc...

For me, this is new because even though I lived in horrible abuse and that the holidays were dangerous times for me because my abuser was more angry if we had fun or family over etc.... I always made it happy. I had learned how to get him out of the house or off in a corner and made sure everyone else was very happy and that made me very happy. Truth be told though, is that for lots of people it's just very stressful and depressing and I understand that!!

SO, long story LONGER!!!! (Lord help you when I get going, it could be a three thousand word response!!! hehehe), right now, is probably a tough time at Support Groups to be seen. I have noticed that there has been more stress, and less people etc... lately so please don't be disheartened. Also your group is anerexia and lots of us aren't in that group. You can post in up to three groups at a time so if you would post in things like depression and anxiety or something, you would have alot more people see your posts and get more support!!! I hope this helps and you feel like people are seeing you very soon!!!!

Sending welcoming hugs, Suzee

Unknown, that is not true, I love you! And I love you as a friend! And I want you as a friend and don't want you to leave at all! I care about you so much! Please know I am here for you! I do understand your feeling! I am also going to message you too! I agree with what Suzee said! You are NOT allowed to go anywhere... sorry, but that's the rules!!! :0)

Love you and lots of hugs for you!

Princess... you know if I leave the site, you can contact me any time by email. I will always be there for you no matter what. I made you a promise a long time ago and I will keep that promise!

I don't know if ever will leave this site. I have met a lot of wonderful people who have helped me deal with my closure. I hope that someday would be able to help out another person.

Well every few months when u slip everybody turns their back on me and they all talk shit to eachother about me but not to my face cuz all but 2 of them are worse addicts than i am! Try not to let others cobtrol your mod or they win!

I just want everynone to know that no matter how done or down you're feeling, I knowwwwwwwwwwww everyone says it's going to get better, and it really is true. I hit rock bottom. I wanted to commit suicide, but I held off. I was talking to a friend of mine who told me that sometimes people really just need to hit rock bottom before you can start going up, and once you get to the point of suicide you've generally hit rock bottom. And the only way you can go from there is up. That's the only option. And that is the way I've gone. I was still struggling today but you know, I decided it was time to be happy again. And I decided to be happy. And instantaneously when I made that decision, I felt sooo incredibly much better. And I'm not faking it! Normally I fake my happiness, but I truly am happy! I was happy for 2 months with my boyfriend for the first time in YEARS and then he hurt me and I was back to being soo sad. Now I'm feeling like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders and my chest. It's incredible! I went out with my family to eat dinner feeling that happiness and for the first time I was actually noticed.. My waiter noticed me and was clearly interested in me. It was as if he could feel the happiness coming off of me. And he made an obvious attempt to get me to come work at the restraunt when we asked if they were hiring. We were leaving and he had the directions to apply online in his hand and was heading my way to hand it to me. Now the purpose of this is to let you know, no matter how down you are, no matter how worthless you are feeling, it REALLY WILL get better. I PROMISE YOU THAT. Don't give up. Don't do it. It's not worth it. I haven't felt this great in years. And I want you to feel the same. This is going out to everyone. I'm going to post it everywhere. It will get better. Please Do Not Give Up.