trust issues

Sweetie.... I can't help you out in this but wanted to make sure you know i AM here for you.

Any you have my number so call if you need to!!!!!!!!!!!

My situation is similar. I have moved away from my home state and have had a rather difficult time finding people to confide in. Or just someone to be my friend. Like you said, just someone to go out and have coffee with and talk to about anything, everything. I dont think that people will accept me for who I truly am and I dont like putting on a front so they will "like" me just to end up coming out with what I'm really like. So I find it hard to let people get close enough to me to actually get to know me. I dont know why I act this way. I drive myself crazy because co-workers have invited me out and I make up some excuse as to why I cant join. when in reality, I'm just sitting at home, alone, on facebook gawking at how much fun everyone is having.
Last night I asked a friend who has recently made life changes (and is much happier now then she has been for some time) what caused her to make the change. She said her AA group has helped a lot, as well as her faith in the bible. I'm agnostic, so the bible wasn't my first choice for inspiration. But I think coming on here and finding others who have my feelings and thoughts will help. We are not alone. no matter how lonely we feel at times, there is someone out there just as afraid as we are waiting to be reached out to.
This may not have been what you were looking for, but I hope that it helps.
Best-
Abbi

princess

honey u are gona do fine and its nothing u have said to your friend that has made them go silent on u lets be honest we all have up and down times and if we have unbared our soul and no one responds we think its what we have written/said but in reality life is never the same and people get caught up in lives just as we all do
give your friend space she will be there again when she can and sadly it might be a while but meanwhile keep meeting people and reaching out to find relationships either friends or gym buddies soemtimes its just an aquaintance that we have coffee with and no real conversation but u are/have great skills so u can do this one step at the time

remember to be kind to u and think positive

love D :)

I have similar trust issues. I'm a part of the air cadets, and whenever we have to do trust exercises, I refuse to. I was abused all my life by my mother and two of her partners (she had three, one of which was my dad but he wasn't and isn't an abuser), So I learned to hide all my feelings away. There's only one person I wholly trust, and that's my fiance. Overcoming trust issues is is really difficult, but I'm learning slowly. I'm seeing a counsellor, and I've learned to trust him. It does get better.

felicity monica

thank u hon for reminding us that life does get better eventually although it does take time to work thru all the issues

u take care of u

love D :)

Yeahh, time it will take, but it's possible. 'Through God all things are possible.' Not sure if you're religious (I'm not) but that quote offers some hope.

. Our society of so work oriented, that everyone is filled with stress and overwhelmed just by daily life. Nothing ever seems good enough. I think because of this we also tend to expect too much from friendship. First we have to trust ourselves. and then trust for others becomes easier.
Remember, everyone feels the way you do sometime in their lives. Just go out there and have fun! Help others, and you won't be so worried about your troubles!

I can definetly understand your trust issues. I was bullied a lot growing up, even by some who I had considered friends, so trust is not an easy thing for me to come by. You can always confide in us though and eventurally someone will come into your life that you are comfortable enough to confide in. My wife was a good friend and confidant long before we ever started dating and her caring heart is one of thie things I fell in love with.

I can't ever let down and "cry on a friends shoulder. " I would like to but either I start to and don't feel like they understand. So I don't ever get past the tip of the ice burg. On the other hand with most people I feel like I have to be strong for them. So talking about my feellings isn't something I've been able to do.